Dating someone in aa recovery
“If the sober person is in early recovery or if the drinker is a problem drinker, the chances for a good dating experience are dim.
You can be sad when your metaphorical house burns down but know that’s God’s way of clearing out the wreckage for a far better person to come into your life.” Ultimately, says Mary Faulkner, “There isn’t a black-and-white answer to the question of whether a sober person should date a drinker.” But, she adds, “If the sober person is in early recovery or if the drinker is a problem drinker, the outlook is dim.In my dating experience, just because a guy doesn’t drink like an alcoholic, it doesn’t mean he’s perfectly sane and has his shit together.Don’t assume that ‘normies’ are superior to you because they don’t have an addiction.”Relationships often go bad, and people in recovery must often be more prepared than most for the possibility of breakup.Banyan offers individualized treatment, a faith-based option, and a variety of amenities at its 5 locations.Alumni had high praise for the treatment team, including "awesome" therapists and staff members who were "like family."This So Cal rehab fosters a regimented but respectful recovery environment, where teens learn how to live sober through plenty of 12-step meetings and life-skills classes—not to mention "equine-assisted psychotherapy" and mixed martial arts.“I started dating a guy who told me he didn’t drink,” she recalls.
“We had very civilized, nice dates but, after a while, I started to catch onto the fact that he really did drink—he was just trying to control his drinking and never indulged around me.
Either accept the glass graciously and then put it down, or simply say, “No, thank you, I don’t drink.” Honestly, most people aren’t as concerned with your drinking as you think—and if they are, they may have a problem themselves.
As therapist Carroll says, “People need to learn to have fun and deal with real-life situations in sobriety.
For example: Your partner invites you to a work or family event where alcohol is being served.
Should you be open about your recovery or just fake it with water on the rocks?
As with everything in recovery, you must be open and willing—even if all the advice you get goes against your gut.