Non drinker dating
But when I said goodbye to alcohol and its commensurate drama, I didn’t intend to bid farewell to dating.I saw my romantic future shimmering atop a cotton candy cloud of contentment and stability. Right would surely be waiting for me, albeit at the local coffee shop instead of the next bar stool.
If nothing else, you’ll remember the sex afterward—and, hopefully, actually like the people you wake up with the next morning. Try asking supportive friends whether they know any awesome, eligible bachelor/ettes who aren’t big drinkers. You can also try the ever-evolving world of sober online dating: not only can you search for non-drinkers on all the usual dating sites, there are also sober-only services like soberseek.com, sobersocial.com, recoveringmates.com, and This occurs when the waiter asks whether you have any questions about the wine list, you say “no,” your date orders a glass of something and then either the waiter or Yummy asks whether you’d like a glass too. My friend Kelly, a 33-year-old makeup artist and recovering alcoholic, suggests keeping it simple: “No, thank you—water [or whatever I’m drinking] is fine.” Then, quick-like and before your date has time to notice, ask a question to steer the conversation to something more interesting than alcohol.If you find that sipping on something other than water helps distract from first date awkwardness, nurse a Shirley Temple, Diet Coke or ginger ale.So it’s probably—no, definitely—smart that in 2006 I decided to give up drinking.I’d had enough embarrassing nights out; I’d woken up beside more than my fair share of unattractive strangers, and was, in turn, more than ready to bid farewell to the drunken rants, crying jags and battles with lovers, friends, cab drivers, cashiers and waiters.I also thrilled at the notion of never having another hangover.
(Seriously, my hangovers were baaaaaad.) I’m not sure whether I classified as an alcoholic.
Meeting for coffee or tea is a great first date option; there’s no lengthy dinner service to endure, so if s/he doesn’t float your boat, you’re free to bail post-latte. Hot Buns doesn’t request your input about where to meet and instead asks, point-blank, “Want to meet for drinks on Thursday? Offer these three words: “I don’t drink,” followed by something you will do, i.e.
“I don’t drink, but I’d love to meet you for coffee on Thursday.” Or, if you’re cool with watching him imbibe, say that—”Sure, although I don’t drink, but I don’t mind watching you while I sip a Diet Coke.” No need to explain further. The dinner option If you choose to meet Mc Hottie for dinner, you’ll probably have to handle the Weird Wine Hurdle.
If the chemistry is kicking and you feel like you’ll explode if s/he doesn’t touch you, take the initiative and invite Boytoy upstairs for tea or hot cocoa at the end of the date.
Remember, “come upstairs” is pretty clear in any language—drunk or not.
We meet for happy hour at 5 p.m., dine with wine at 7 p.m., meet lovers at a bar later on, and make every excuse to have another round.