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Then, when I was five-years old, they moved to Tracy, about an hour drive east of San Jose, where the population was, and remains, predominantly white.The majority of what my parents know about other races they've learned through media or second-hand stories.
She just wants to date a white guy."Ryan: I dated Latinas previously. Even I wondered after we first met, "Is he going to be really cheap and have a lot of money? " Ryan looked at me and said, "I never thought about that." He seemed to think that if the baby were brown, they wouldn't be able to relate. My family is very small, and Janet's family is very big, and they live 10 blocks away from us. I also feel that Ryan should teach him about the Jewish religion." And with Dominicans, there has been so much hatred of ourselves. I wanted them to know that he is college-educated, has ambitions in life, and has his shit together. But this time, I decided to just remove myself from the situation.Dominicans have, almost, a trauma of being identified as black. This guy I'm dating is black, and get used to it."Jarrett: When I first met Jill's family, I made sure I was wearing a blazer and that I was buttoned-up. But the next couple of times, I made sure I was down. Jarrett: Yeah, but at the same time, if you brought home a stereotypical Clark Kent, Superman-type, what you probably would have been getting is, "He's not cool." The urban synergy is innate between African-Americans and Latinos. "He's sticking around and obviously trying to understand what we're saying, so let's give him a shot."Jarrett: Both of us proved to our families and friends that we are nothing like the stereotypes. I've realized how much more of an activist Jill is than I am.Christine: We'd talked about the fact that Juan is 100 percent Dominican, born there, and then came here when he was little. There's that difference between [Latin] cultures in the islands and those on the [U. This is an ongoing conversation within the Latin community. But I've come to realize I'm probably more American than she is! Even as a little girl, I had a crush on Joey Mc Intyre from New Kids on the Block.And I was born here and my mom's from Peru, and my dad's from Argentina. It's like, "Oh, I was born in the homeland, and you weren't." Christine: An unnecessary competition of who's more Latino. I grew up in East Harlem, and my high school was mainly Hispanic and black. Ryan: There is a stereotype that in Latin families there's 100 kids running around. I remember the first time meeting Janet's family, I went to her aunt's house and there were 10 adults and 50 kids. "Ryan: The first time that our races really started coming up is when we had our son, Connor.Jill: Jarrett was the first black guy I ever dated. We vibed on the fact that we both have really crazy work ethics. The daily struggle — sometimes when we would walk into the room, I would be the only Latina or I'd comment to Jarrett, "You're the only black guy here."Jarrett: We are definitely both successful in our fields and able to pay our rent on time. Jill: I was a little bit wary of how my family would be toward him.
Any guy I'd ever brought home was a Spanish-speaker. It was like, "Oh, my gosh, how is he even going to talk to anybody? I would have been praised for dating a white man because my babies would have come out with green eyes and "good hair." I know my family isn't ignorant, but I didn't want them to think he was a thug.
There's a stereotype that when you see a Latina ... Connor is going to get more than his fair share of his Hispanic side. When he's older, it really is up to him what religion he wants to be. If you take the child to church every Sunday, you're not letting them choose.
I guess I wanted to have something more in common with my son. But I don't need him to have the same beliefs as I do. He's going to be exposed to 75 percent of Christianity and 25 percent of nothing. I'd rather teach him, "Just be good to people, and if you want shit to happen for you, make it happen." But every couple has its differences regardless of race.
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This week, we're publishing some of those responses as part of a conversation about race and relationships.
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